I spent fifteen years losing my life to misophonia.
I will spend ten weeks helping you take yours back.
I was ten when it started. It no longer runs my life. Now I teach the method that changed it for me, one to one.
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If your experience is anything like mine
The anger comes up fast and it is bigger than the moment that caused it. Rage, some days. Then frustration at yourself for feeling it at all, because you know exactly how it looks from the outside.
Your head knows it is just a sound. Your body reacts like it is under attack, and no amount of telling yourself to relax has ever once worked.
You get tense before you even arrive somewhere, because you already know what you are going to hear in there. So you go less often, and you do not always say why.
Underneath it, you feel like you do not quite fit, and that the reason is something wrong with you.
You are not crazy, and you are not the only one.
The first fifteen years were the hardest. Then I began working on it properly, and these days it is all but gone.
A letter, before anything else
You have probably been told to relax, to grow out of it, to stop being so sensitive. You have probably tried to fix this alone for a very long time, because that is what you do when nobody around you can see the thing you are dealing with. I could see it, because I lived inside it for fifteen years. The thing underneath the reaction is workable. I know how to work on it, because I have done it, and you do not have to keep doing this on your own.
Jonty
This does not stay still.
Every lap of the loop teaches your body that the sound matters a little more. That is why it gets worse over years without anything new happening to you.
The list of places you avoid does not shrink on its own. It grows, quietly, one dinner and one car ride at a time.
I barely spoke to my father for seven years because of this. I know exactly what those years cost, and I would not wish them on anyone.
You do not have to lose any more of them.
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What it was like, and what is different now
- Ten years old
I built a fort out of cereal boxes so I would not have to hear my family eat.
- The next fifteen years
I barely spoke to my father for seven of them.
- Everything I tried
Most of it helped. None of it could do the part that was only ever mine to do.
- Then it began to change
I am safe, it is just a sound.
- Now
I eat at the same table with my father. It no longer decides anything for me.
Read my full story
The breakfast table
I built a fort out of cereal boxes at the breakfast table so I would not have to hear my family eat. Not as a game. So I could get through breakfast. By eleven I had stopped eating with them altogether. Nobody had a word for it, so I used the only explanation available to me: something was wrong with me. I was broken, or dramatic, or a bad son and a bad brother. I believed that for a very long time, and believing it did more damage than any sound ever did.
The fifteen years after that were the hardest
I pushed earplugs in as deep as they would go. I sat in the back left corner of every classroom I was ever in. I ran one headphone into my left ear and hoped nobody would notice. I barely spoke to my father for seven years. Not because I did not love him. Because the sound of him breathing made my body feel like it was dying. I wished I was deaf. Some nights I wished for worse than that. But I kept waking up, and eventually I started looking for a way through.
Everything I tried, and what it actually did
Chiropractors, acupuncturists, osteopaths, physios, psychologists, psychiatrists, hypnotists, shamans, coaches, mentors. A diagnosis of ADHD at university and a stimulant prescription, which made it worse, because it stimulated a system that was already over stimulated. Earplugs as a way of living, three pairs in the bag at all times, wet tissue paper when I forgot them. Music in both ears on every car ride with my dad. In class at high school, earplugs and one headphone, hidden, whenever I thought I could get away with it. Eating alone upstairs for eight years. I am not going to tell you none of that worked. Most of it helped, some of it a great deal, and the headphones in the car gave me years with my father I would not otherwise have had. What none of it could do was the part that was only ever mine to do. That started when I stopped trying to change the sound, which I was never going to manage, and started on what I could actually reach: what my body was carrying, whether it felt safe, and everything sitting around the trigger rather than the trigger itself.
Then it began to change
It did not begin with anything that looked like treatment. It began at the end of a yoga class in my mid twenties, lying still for three minutes, and feeling safe in my body for what seemed like the first time sober. Then counting my breath somewhere I could not leave, and noticing the sound had a little less of me. Then a sentence I repeated to myself thousands of times over years: I am safe, it is just a sound. Then a session at twenty five where I finally understood what my nervous system had been protecting me from. It was slow, it was not a straight line, and it was never one thing.
What it is honestly like now
These days I can sit right next to my father and eat at the same table where I built the cereal box fort. No earplugs. Most days I do not notice the sounds that used to end my day. When I am exhausted or under real pressure I notice them more. I remind myself that I am safe and there is no danger, and my system settles in a matter of seconds. Last year a woman I cared about started eating across from me and I felt my system rev. I told her my nervous system felt edgy, she said thank you for sharing, and it dropped. That is what it is like now. Mostly, and not always, and it no longer decides anything for me.
I did not learn misophonia from the outside. I lived inside it for fifteen years.
- Living with misophonia since age ten
- Trained coach
- Personal trainer
- Yoga teacher
- Breathwork guided for thousands
- Built MisoCalm
What I have built
I found what actually moved it, and then spent years building the map I did not have. Alongside that I trained as a coach, a personal trainer and a yoga teacher, and have guided breathwork for thousands of people. That map is becoming a five-stage course, alongside a free app and a community I am building now. This is the same work, done with you rather than handed to you.
A five-stage course
Written from the inside out, grounded in the research and in living this since I was ten. Stages one and two are live, and you get every stage as it lands, at no extra cost.
MisoCalm
A free app with breathing tools, grounding practices and gentle tracking. Built because nothing like it existed.
Years of research
Forums, podcasts, hundreds of first-hand accounts, and the clinical literature. Read so that what I bring you is not only my own experience.
A community around you
Two live calls a week on Skool with me there in person, and a group of people who do not need misophonia explained to them.
The sound is the switch. The stress was already there.
You are not broken. Your nervous system learned to protect you.
Almost everything on offer aims at the sound: block it, mask it, avoid it. The sound was never the part you could change.
The Load
How much your body is already carrying today, before any sound.
The Loop
Everything before and after a trigger: the bracing, the surge, the guilt, the avoiding.
The Charge
What that sound came to mean, usually in childhood, usually at a table.
Every lap teaches your nervous system that the sound matters more, so the next one arrives sooner and hits harder. That is why this gets worse over years without anything new happening to you.
The sound is the one part you cannot control. Everything else on that circle is workable.
How the Loop works, step by step
This is the loop around a trigger. The sound itself is a moment. The loop is everything running before it and everything running after it, and how long that lasts is different for everyone. Most people only ever count the moment in the middle. The rest of it is where the damage accumulates, and on a bad day one lap runs straight into the next.
The sound
The moment everyone thinks this condition is. It is the shortest part of the whole cycle.
The reaction
The surge. Anger, and often a flash of something closer to panic. Sometimes it comes out, sometimes you hold it in and pay for it later.
The aftermath
Stress you cannot put down, frustration, and a body that stays switched on for hours after everything has gone quiet.
Shame
Guilt about how you reacted, anger still sitting there with nowhere to go, frustration at yourself for not being able to control it, and replaying the whole thing long after everyone else has forgotten it.
Avoiding
So you go less often. Which works, briefly, and quietly teaches your body that the place really was worth avoiding. Underneath it sits the fear that this is simply how it is going to be from now on, which is what makes a shrinking life feel like a reasonable trade.
Anticipation
Then the anxiety of the next one. You are tense before you even arrive, because you already know what you are likely to hear in there and who is likely to be making it. This is where the lap begins again, and it is also one of the parts that moves the most once it is worked on.
And this is the way out
Where it comes from, and why it gets worse
When you were young, certain sounds became associated with stress, or with a situation you could not change or get out of. Your body filed them under things to watch for, which at the time was it doing its job. Nobody has ever told it that situation is over, so it still reacts the same way every time. That is why being told to relax has never worked. You cannot talk your body out of something it learned before you had the words.
Three places the stress lives. Knowing which one you are working on is most of the work, because they need different things and they move on different timelines.
The Load
How much your body is already carrying today. How you slept, what work is doing to you, what is going on at home, and everything else ordinary life is asking of you. This sets how close to the edge you start, before anything makes a sound.
The Loop
Everything that runs before and after a trigger. The listening out for it beforehand, then the anger, the rage, the frustration, and afterwards the guilt, the replaying, the avoiding. Every lap teaches your body that the sound matters more.
The Charge
What that particular sound came to be associated with, usually in childhood, usually at a table, usually with the people closest to you. This is the one we work on last, once the Load is coming down and the Loop is being interrupted, because that is what makes it safe to go near.
We work in that order. Find some compassion for yourself first, build safety in your body, bring the Load down. That is what makes space to work on the Loop and the Charge at all.
~12 million US adults with clinical misophonia: Dixon et al., 2024 — the first nationally representative study
Zero established first-line treatments: Systematic reviews, as of 2026
Under 10 specialist centres worldwide: Provider directories
Ten sessions, one method, one to one
Ten sessions, one to one, on the stress your body is already carrying before the sound arrives. How to bring it down day to day, how to shorten what happens afterwards, and how to measure what changes.
The Dial
Five steps for the seconds after a sound hits. Learned in week two, run live on a real trigger from your week, practised until it is yours.
- 1Weeks 1 to 2
Ground
A safe place in your body, one breath tool, and the Dial.
- 2Weeks 3 to 8
The middle
Six sessions shaped around you: the body, the Loop, and what sits underneath.
- 3Weeks 9 to 10
Out into the world
The practice in a real situation you choose, and your numbers against where you started.
- The scanning is usually the first thing to settle.
- Space between the surge and what you do next.
- Understanding what your body is doing, and why it learned to do it.
- Recovery time, measured every week, so you can see it move.
- Places that came off your list, worked back on to it.
The ten weeks in full
Ten sessions moves two of the three things that set how bad this gets, and starts the third. The daily load on your nervous system can drop in weeks. The loop around a trigger, the fire, the reaction, the hours afterwards, can be interrupted reliably by week six. The old meaning underneath the sound softens over months and years, and ten weeks is where that work begins. I say that on the first call, because it is the honest version of what changes.
- Weeks 0 to 2 · the same for everyone
Ground
A forty five minute call, then seven days of logging before we start so week one already has a baseline. Week one is the anchor: finding the place in your body that is safe, and one breath tool drilled until it is yours. Week two is the Dial, five steps for the moment a sound hits, run live on a trigger from your week, plus what to do in the thirty minutes afterwards so the rest of the day is not gone.
- Weeks 3 to 8 · weighted to you
The middle
Six sessions, weighted to where you are. Everyone gets the body work, the attention practice, and one honest conversation with the person who triggers you most. How far we go into the story underneath is decided with you, session to session, and only ever on solid ground.
Starting out
You have only just found the word for this. The middle stays longer on the body and the daily practices. The story underneath is visited only if it arrives on its own.
Regulation first
You understand it. What you need is a body that comes back down. The middle goes deep on the practices, the sleep and the food, and touches the story without excavating it.
The story underneath
You can breathe through it and you know there is something older. The basics are compressed and the roots begin in week four, always on the ground of the daily practice.
- Weeks 9 to 10 · the same for everyone
Out into the world
Week nine is the practice in a real situation you choose and we prepare for: the family dinner, the office, the car. Week ten is your numbers against your baseline, your own protocol on one page, a plan for the next ninety days, and a check in a month later.
One line a week, so that by week ten the change is yours to see rather than mine to claim.
- Worst trigger
- 0 to 10
- Recovery time
- minutes
- Outbursts and avoidances
- a count
- Sleep
- hours
The number to watch
What a session is like
Arrive
We start with a few minutes of meditation together. You settle before we go anywhere near the hard stuff.
The week
What went well, what knocked you sideways, whether you did the practice, and what the four numbers say.
The work
We follow what is actually there that day. Sometimes that is somatic work with what you feel in your body. Sometimes it is butterfly tapping on a trigger from the week, or parts work, or a guided visualisation into an old memory. I choose the tool for the day, and I tell you what it is and why.
Close
One thing to do before we next speak. Small, specific, and said out loud so there is no confusion about it.
After
The recording and a written summary reach you within a day, so nothing depends on your memory.
The tools we use
The Dial
Five steps for the moment a sound hits: stop, breathe, feel, name, choose. This is the main practice and everything else supports it. You run it live in session on a real trigger from your week, until it is yours.
Breathwork for self regulation
Slow breathing, long exhales, the physiological sigh. The first thing you learn and the thing you use most, because it works in the moment and it works at night.
Butterfly tapping
Alternate tapping across the body while a trigger from the week is held in mind. Borrowed from trauma work. It lets the body process what happened without being taken over by it again.
Somatic processing
Finding what a trigger does in your body, staying with it, and letting it move through rather than around. Small doses, always with a place to come back to.
Guided visualisation and meditation
The anchor point, the body scan, and a ten minute evening practice that lowers the baseline over weeks. Every session opens and closes here.
Parts integration
The part that rages at the sound, the part that hides, the part that manages everything. All you, all doing a job. We get them talking to each other instead of fighting.
Shadow work
The feelings under the reaction that nobody has helped you look at. Shame, grief, the old fear. Brought into the light a little at a time, so they stop running things from the dark.
Every change, before and after
It starts before the sound does. You walk in somewhere already listening for it, and some part of you never fully switches off.
The scanning is usually the first thing to settle. Not because anywhere got quieter, but because your body stops treating it as something it has to guard against.
The anger that comes up frightens you, and it is most often pointed at the people closest to you.
You get some space between the surge and what you do next. The reaction still arrives. It stops deciding everything that happens after it.
Underneath all of it is a long-running sense that something is wrong with you.
You understand what your body is doing and why it learned to do it. Most people have no idea how much they were carrying until it comes off.
When it does land, the rest of the day is gone. Sometimes longer.
Recovery time is the first thing I ask you to measure. It is the first thing that moved for me, years before the sounds themselves got any quieter. Not the trigger. The time it takes to come back.
There is a list of places you avoid, and it has been quietly growing for years.
The list stops growing. Then we pick the place that matters most to you and work towards going back to it, deliberately, in week nine.
You cannot explain it without sounding unreasonable, so mostly you do not try.
You have language for it, and you can say it to the people who matter without apologising for existing.
The moments this is actually for
A dinner with people you love, and you stay. Not bracing. Not counting the minutes. Not working out how early you could leave without anyone minding.
A car journey where you are in the conversation, instead of behind your headphones waiting for it to be over.
A cinema, a restaurant, a wedding, a shared office. Places that quietly came off your list, going back on to it.
Being in a kitchen with the person you love most in the world, who is also the person hardest to be near, and staying.
Not the absence of sound. The presence of your life. My own list stopped shrinking, and then it turned back. The breakfast table where I built a fort out of cereal boxes is the table I eat at with my father now.
If that is the life you want back, the first step is a free conversation.
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Working with Jonty has honestly been such a positive experience. From our first call I felt really comfortable talking to him. He's so understanding, supportive and completely non-judgemental, and our calls genuinely feel like a safe space where I can talk openly about what I'm experiencing without feeling silly or misunderstood.
I actually really enjoy our chats and always come away from them feeling better and like I understand myself and my misophonia a little more. Jonty really listens and has helped me look at things differently rather than just feeling like misophonia is something I have to put up with.
I definitely feel like I'm already making progress, which has given me a lot of hope. I'm really grateful for Jonty's support so far and would absolutely recommend him to anyone struggling with misophonia.
Most therapists have never heard of misophonia, and being explained to by someone who has not felt it is its own particular loneliness. Where you can find one who knows it, expect $150 to $250 an hour.
You will not have to explain misophonia to me.
What it costs
- Ten sessions, one to one. $125 a session.
- $3,000 once the course is finished. This price is for the first five.
- Full refund after session one if it is not right for you.
You would be one of my first five.
I am not going to pretend otherwise. That is why it is $1,250 and not $3,000, and it is why you will get more of me than anyone who comes after you. The first five are the people I build this with. I will be paying closer attention to you than I will ever be able to again.
If the first session is not right, you get your money back
Come to session one. If you finish it and know this is not for you, tell me and I will refund you in full, no explanation needed and no awkwardness. I would rather carry that risk than have you carry it. This is in addition to your rights under the Australian Consumer Law.
Everything that is included
The work itself
- Ten one-to-one sessions, sixty minutes each, weekly
- Every session recorded and sent to you
- A written summary after each one, within a day
- A plan weighted to where you actually are, not a fixed curriculum
- Four numbers tracked weekly, so we can both see what is moving
Access to me between sessions
- Message me directly on Skool or WhatsApp, any day
- A reply within twenty four hours on weekdays
- Two live calls a week on Skool, where I am there in person
- One practice a week, chosen for you rather than picked off a list
The practices and tools, yours from day one
- Eight guided audio practices recorded by me: forgiveness, acceptance, a guided reset, three breath practices at five, ten and fifteen minutes, and two meditations at five and ten
- The Dial Process, written out, so the five steps are in your hands and not only in a session
- The Starter Kit and your first map
- MisoCalm, with the breathing and grounding tools
And it stays yours
- Every recording and summary, permanently
- Lifetime access to Thriving With Misophonia, including the full course once it is finished
- MisoCalm premium, for good
- Every meditation and practice, including the ones not made yet
- Your own protocol on one page, and a plan for the next ninety days
- A check in call a month after we finish
The two weekly calls
Open forum, twice a week on Skool. We start with a guided practice together, then I teach one thing briefly, then it is questions, and if someone needs support live on the call they get it. You do not have to speak. Plenty of people come and listen, and that counts.
Both calls run at 9am Bali time, which is evening in the US, currently 9pm Eastern and 8pm through the American winter. These are the times for now. As the community grows and it becomes clearer where people actually are, they will move to suit.
Why the price is lower now
I am building the full course right now. Stages one and two are live, the rest is being written this year. The first five people go through the ten weeks while I am still building it, and they get the finished thing for good when it lands. That is why it is $1,250 and not $3,000. When the course is finished, $3,000 is what this costs.
What this is not
This is coaching, not medical or psychological treatment, and it does not replace either.
It asks something of you. Ten sessions of showing up, a short practice most evenings, and one line of numbers a week.
If you are under eighteen, I am not going to turn you away, and it does need a parent or guardian in the arrangement and agreeing to it. Tick under 18 in the form and I will explain how that works.
If you are in crisis
Questions people ask
Do the sounds actually go away?
I will not promise that, and be wary of anyone who does. For some people the intensity drops a long way, and in my own case it did, over years rather than weeks. What we aim at is the part that can be worked on directly: how fast you come back after a trigger, how much stress you are carrying before it, and how much of your life it gets to decide. Those move first, and you will be measuring them from week one.
I have tried therapy and it did not help. Why would this be different?
Two reasons. We work with the body rather than only with the thinking, which is what the people who found relief consistently point to. And you will have your own numbers by week four, so neither of us has to guess whether it is moving.
What if I cannot describe what happens to me?
Most people cannot at first. Finding the language is part of the early weeks, and it is one of the things that changes the most.
Is it really one to one?
Yes. Every session is just us. The community and the live calls come with it if you want other people around you, but they are an addition, never a substitute.
What if I need to miss a week?
Life happens. We move it. Ten sessions is the commitment, not ten particular Tuesdays.
Why only five people?
Because that is how many I can hold properly alongside everything else. When the five are taken, there is a waiting list.
What happens on the call?
We talk about what this is costing you and what you have tried. I tell you how I would approach it for you specifically, and you ask me anything you like. If it is a fit, I explain how to start. If it is not, I say so. Nobody gets pushed.
You have not taken many people through this yet. Why trust you with it?
I will be straight with you: you would be one of my first five. What I bring is fifteen years inside this, the years of work that moved it, training as a coach, a personal trainer and a yoga teacher, and breathwork guided for thousands of people. And you carry very little of the risk. If the first session is not right, you get your money back.
I have had this for decades. Is it too late?
I had it from ten, and nothing moved for fifteen years. The loop that keeps it going runs today, not in the past, which is why it can be worked on at any age.
Can this really work over a video call?
Every session is live and just us, recorded, with a written summary within a day. Most of the work is in your body and your week, and a video call reaches both. It also means you do it from the one place you already feel safe.
I am nervous about getting on a call.
Most people are, and plenty of people with this find calls hard in general. You can keep your camera off. It is forty five minutes, it is free, and you can end it whenever you like.
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It probably feels like a big step, talking to a stranger about something you have kept to yourself for years. That is a completely normal thing to feel. You can keep your camera off, and you can stop whenever you like.
$1,250 for one of the first five places, or three payments of $450 ($1,350 in total). Ten sessions, one to one. What that covers
Free 45 minute call · Full refund after session one if it is not right
Book a call or do not. Either way you are the one who decides, and I will respect whichever you choose.
When we talk, bring the one situation that costs you most. That is where we start.
What I will commit to
Not ready to apply? The free report is here, and it is the same place I would start anyone. Misophonia Decoded